Brand New Formula Garden Of Life - Raw Meal Give-A-Way

I admit it - I'm addicted to the Garden Of Life products. In particular, I love the "Raw Meal" organic shake. It's very low in sugar and high in protein. It tastes great and it's organic, vegan, gluten and dairy free. I make a shake every morning with berries, kale, almond milk and a banana. I'd love for you to try it so I'm offering a free product to five lucky winners. All you need to do is sign up for my newsletter on my home page and let me know by email - karen@karenleepoter.com.

Lollapalooza Highlights 2015 - An Over 40 POV

This is a fun recap of my 3 day Lollapalooza experience. There are some really hilarious, emotional and disgusting moments in this clip. I know you enjoy this 'cause it's filled with pictures and videos.

I Need YOUR Opinion

I recently had professional photos taken for my media kit and website. I'd love to get your opinion on which one is your favorite shot. They were taken by my talented pal, Phil Goldman of Photographic Design.

 

I'm Vain And Ready For Battle

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I'm going to come right out and say this: I'm vain. Yup, call it what you want but I like to look youthful and sexy. I admit that it's an ongoing process since the sun, gravity, pollution, alcohol and many other factors are at war with my face. I'm constantly battling wrinkles, sun spots, and other age related appearance threatening demons. I'm the first to tell you that I get Botox and fillers to keep my face looking the best it can under the circumstances. That being said, it's counterproductive for me to leave the house without a sunscreen and moisturizer on my face. The problem I found when searching for the perfect blend of moisture and sunscreen is that a lot of the creams cause blemishes and make my face look white, greasy, or pasty. This is not the look I'm going for!Guess what? I found my favorite everyday face cream with a SPF 30 sunscreen. It's Pevonia Botanica's "Ligne Speciale Youth Renew Tinted Cream Spf 30." It's smooth, fragrant, and very lightly tinted to actually cause a subtle glow. This is the first product line that doesn't make me breakout or have any of the other nasty side effects which contain sunscreen.

I'm at Blogher 2015 Conference

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So the airplane ride from Chicago to NYC was a little scary because I happened to be sitting next to a girl who was clutching a vomit bag. She announced that she had been puking all morning. I avoided the potential exposure to Sars by moving to a different seat, but had another negative experience when I went to the bathroom. The flight attendant in first class informed me that she would need to "have a word with me." Yikes, I felt like I was being sent to the principal's office. She wasn't happy with me going to the bathroom when the pilot was in there. I somehow should've known not to go near that area when he's taking a leak. She told me it wasn't funny even though I wasn't laughing.

The trip became much more fun when I had ice cream for lunch and then met all these new people at the bar at Milos. It's a tad (ok a lot) expensive, but delicious even though I could only afford a salad. The martini was great, bartender Natalia was terrific. I love meeting funny and lively new peeps!

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After that I was able to catch a Broadway show with Sutton Foster called, "Wild Party." That was an incredible sexy show! I snuck the pic below at the end of the show. Brandon Victor Dixon is an amazing actor and a hottie!

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I'm learning so much at this conference. I'm in NYC and there are so many friendly, funny, and enlightening people here. I found out that being vulnerable and sharing my life with you - the reader is a good thing. I may share too much but that's ok right? Here are some pics from the conference so far. Soledad O'brien and Gwyneth Paltrow were phenomenal speakers! More to come...

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There's No Such Thing As A "Natural Beauty" Unless You're 18 Or Khaleesi

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There's no such thing as a "natural beauty" unless you're 18 years old or you're Khaleesi! I know I'm going to get a lot of flack for saying this. The feminists reading this are probably staging a revolution at this very moment to ban me from writing future newsletters, but I'm being honest. Ali Wentworth (actress married to George Stephanopoulos) wrote a book, "Happily Ali After" in which she describes her plastic surgery to reduce the bags under her eyes. She states, "It started to really eat away at me. I just wanted to fix it and make it go away." Bravo Ali! Thanks for your frank openness. Let's be real, as women we innately thrive by looking and feeling the best we can. When I first became single, I told a friend that I was glad I had lost so much weight from grieving 'cause losing weight was one less thing I'd need to worry about going back into the dating scene. She was horrified! "Men aren't going to care if you're overweight," she stated indignantly. Um I beg to differ! After being in the single's world for many years, nothing could be more spot on. Maybe a few pounds aren't going to make or break a date, but a lot of extra poundage is going to turn those guys off big time. Ali says, "Richard Gere has white hair, and everyone's still like, "Oh, he's so sexy.' But believe me, if he had a wife with white hair, everyone would go, 'Why is Richard Gere married to this old lady?' It's a double standard, but it's not going to change for a long time." I couldn't agree more, stop trying to fight city hall, color your freakin hair and go to the gym. That's all for now. Hehe, I told you I'd be back to writing more superficial less Buddhist stuff than my last newsletter based on the "Serenity Prayer." But come to think of it, maybe this one falls under "the courage to change the things I can." To see last week's newsletter click here.

4, 3, 2, 1 Recap In New York City

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This past Mother's Day weekend was one of the best. Why? Because I spent the weekend in New York City with my favorite (and only) daughter, Jessica. Jessica has been obsessed with musical theater since she was five years old. An example of her enthusiasm for the theater: she won a show tunes trivia contest at age eleven on a cruise ship against several women in their 50s. Jess currently lives in Los Angeles and found a ridiculously cheap rate to fly in for a week to our hometown, Chicago. I decided to sweeten the pot and suggested using miles to fly us to NYC. We used Magellan Luxury Hotels to find a hotel. If they find a lower rate, they adjust your price per night. My rate went down twice! We thought we were staying in Times Square, but oops, I made the res for the Grand Hyatt. It worked out great - it's just a typical KarenLee Poter move to book the wrong hotel. Here's the 4,3,2,1 Recap of our phenomenal weekend in New York City:

  • 4 Amazing Broadway Shows: 1) "Fish in the Dark" - Larry David's Broadway debut! Really funny & a great combo of Curb Your Enthusiasm and Seinfeld. Great acting with similar characters as the two TV shows. Stood in a mass of crazy fans and waited to meet Larry after the show. I asked him if he had advice for any budding standup comic. His response: "Yeah, tell him to pick a different career." IMG_1817IMG_1793 IMG_1883 IMG_19342) "Something Rotten" - Our favorite due to it being so irreverent and funny. It references minimally 30 different musicals. The music is fun and goofy. The acting, singing and dancing is amazing. I think it should win the Tony for best musical and Brian d'Arcy James should win best actor - just saying. 3) "Fun Home" - my least fav of the four, but it's still really well done. It takes on two heavy-duty topics: suicide and lesbians. The two women next to me were crying, hugging and making out afterwards. I literally had to interrupt their embrace to allow my daughter to get to the bathroom since there was no intermission. Once again, terrific acting and music make this a really good Broadway show. 4) "Hand To God" - one word: INSANE! I can't express how bizarrely funny yet emotional this play is. It tackles subjects like religion, the devil made me do it, and self- mutilation - in a humorous way. Did I mention puppets are involved? The Steven Boyer and Geneva Carr also should win Tonys if I had a say in this year's awards.
  • 3 Delicious Meals: Russ and Daughters a family-owned shop of high-end smoked fish, caviar & New York-style specialty foods since 1914. Orgasmic is the first word that comes to mind after biting into this lox and bagel delight. We even met Mark Russ the owner. We went to Nino's 46  for some pre-theater dinner great Italian cuisine. We ate Mac and Cheese bites and Orecchiette with wood roasted chicken. Ok, I admit this wasn't on my raw foods diet, but what the heck, I was on vacation! Radiance Tea House had some of the finest dumplings I've ever tasted. We ordered too much food , so we took a to-go bag of baby eggplant with chili and gave it to a hungry guy on the street. One sad thing I noted was that Mr. Softee Ice Cream is no longer in NYC. Apparently they've been bought out.   
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  • 2 Chicks Singing:  We rarely spend any ALONE time so we did some mom/daughter bonding, walking and singing. Yup, we ended up in two bars. The first, Whitman & Bloom is a cute bar where one of Jessica's friends - IMG_1856Casey Breve sang as his father played the piano. Casey is a contender on next season's America's Got Talent. Make sure to watch him because he truly has talent. Here is a link to his latest single. Jessica and her friends took turns singing with Casey. It was an awesome night. The other bar is one of Jessica's favorites - Marie's Crisis. This is a crazy venue where throngs of people sing show tunes (full soundtracks) at the top of their lungs around a piano. It's a trip!
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Raw Fit Protein Powder - Why I love it!

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Raw-Fit-Banner (2)Are you someone who is constantly trying to balance the battle with gravity pulling everything down, weight gain in the wrong places, exercising without breaking anything, and good nutrition? – Please note: I didn’t say DIET! If you answered yes to any of those, you’re like me – someone trying to look and feel great for as long as humanely possible. Without boring you with the particular “lifestyle change” I’m on right now i.e. DIET, I’d like to tell you about a protein powder I’ve enjoyed. Everyone’s into protein powders lately, so I’ve researched and found the best one for my needs. It’s called: Garden of Life’s Raw Fit.

Usually a product that is vegan, organic, raw, dairy free, gluten free, and soy free tastes like a piece of chalk, right? Not the case here – in fact there are three different flavors and they all taste great.

I was immediately skeptical because the label states that it fights cravings, burns fat and satisfies hunger. After trying them, believe it or not, they live up to those statements. I enjoy the taste and I feel more energized.

Here’s my morning smoothie recipe:

Blend a handful of green leafy vegetables, half of a cucumber, a cup of almond milk, 4 ice cubes with a scoop of Raw Fit. Find out more click here

My Music Freak Is Back On!

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What music gets you going? So many of my memories were made listening to songs over and over when I was in high school and college. I especially loved disco, Motown and classic rock. I have to admit I was a bit of a showtunes geek as well. A live concert was my happy place. Upon graduating and entering the work force, music sadly took a back seat. It re-surfaced when I gave birth to my three children, but most of that was kid oriented like, "The Wheels on the Bus" or "Twinkle Twinkle." I lost at least a decade of great stuff, but I knew every Raffi and Sesame Street Song. Don't cry for me Argentina, because my music addiction is back with a vengenance! I'm crazy about Indi and folk rock lately  due to the influence of my  boyfriend. When he first introduced me to it, I grumbled that it wasn't Earth Wind & Fire. Gradually I began to open my ears to a bunch of different genres of music. Music is once again a big part of my life! I can't imagine working out, making love or chilling with friends without it. I'm always excited when one of my kids introduces me to new song - they have thankfully outgrown "Mary Had A little Lamb." I frequently go to my happy places -concerts, and hear great live versions from artists such as Arcade Fire and Spoon.

Because music makes my heart soar, and I'm a super generous person, I have decided to share two playlists with you. My "WORKOUT" playlist is self explanatory, and my LOVE" playlist - well that's for you to decide when to whip out. Enjoy and please email me your thoughts. Sign up for my email list to receive updates on music and a whole bunch more!

 

Why Do Cougars Fascinate Us? Let’s Re-define the word: COUGAR!

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Why Do Cougars Fascinate Us? Let’s Re-define the word: COUGAR! Who was your favorite character on Sex and the City? Admit it, Carrie was sweet, but Samantha was fascinating. Samantha was hot! She dressed sexy, dated younger men, and wasn’t afraid to shock the others with tales of her sexual exploits. Samantha took pride in her body and mind. She was financially independent, loved her job, passionate about her friends and had a great sense of humor. Samantha was a Cougar!

I know a lot about Cougars, because I’m a Cougar. My husband of 24 years was suddenly ripped from my life, and I became a widow at age 47. I was unprepared for my metamorphosis from kitten to Cougar, but everyone’s journey is different. I’m currently in a committed relationship with a younger man, but that’s a small part of my being a Cougar. In fact, I have redefined the term cougar to mean a woman who is a: Confident, Older, Unique, Genuine, Assertive, and Racy. Any woman can possess these traits – married or single. We all have it within us, and I challenge you to release your inner Cougar!

A Cougar is CONFIDENT!

Confidence is the cornerstone to being a cougar. A cougar is confident on both physical and mental levels. She works out, eats healthy, and keeps her body fit. This doesn’t mean that you need to have the perfect body to be a cougar. Take the body you have and make it the best it can be. If you can’t afford a gym, find ways to exercise at home. We realize that we have only one body, and although gravity is pulling it down, we continually strive to make it better. Wear makeup because there’s no such thing as a natural beauty, color your hair, and accentuate the positives in the way you dress. If you have great boobs, wear low cut tops. If you like your butt, invest in a hot pair of jeans.

Your body language says EVERYTHING, so strut your stuff. Have you ever noticed that the most popular girl in high school wasn’t necessarily the prettiest or had the best figure? She did exude self-confidence! Here’s where the mental aspect to being a cougar comes into play. Cougars don’t worry about what “people” think about them. A cougar knows whom she is and what she wants to do with her life. If you follow what your gut is telling you, you will succeed. It’s that simple. This applies to how you raise your family, dealing with friends, and becoming independent of others. As you support yourself, your self-esteem rises immensely. Cougars have the inner strength to filter out the advice of judgmental “well meaning” friends and family. We go to therapists or meditate in order to clear our minds. Cougars work at keeping their bodies and minds in the best possible condition.

A Cougar is OLDER and proud to say it. As Samantha Jones states, “I’m 52, and I will rock this dress.” Your wrinkles are your war wounds. You’ve had awesome experiences in your life; raised children, worked various jobs, traveled, and survived tragedies. Cougars have had the experience to know what’s important in life. An older woman has had many great sexual experiences. You’re like a fine wine or an ancient tree. You may have a few more aches and pains, and you may have to wear reading glasses, but you have wisdom that is invaluable. Being older and wiser makes us great mothers. We’ve taken care of ourselves and therefore we’re able to impart our love and wisdom onto our kids. I have an incredibly open and honest relationship with my three children. If they want to talk about sex, drugs, or rock and roll, they know that I’m game. Who wouldn’t want this relationship with a parent? The transformation into a fully actualized Cougar takes years. This is why you don’t see too many cougars under 40.

A Cougar is UNIQUE, and that’s a good thing. If we were all the same, think how boring life would be. Cougars are women who at times can fit into the crowd, but it’s not imperative to her existence. You are a snowflake, and no two are alike. As a cougar, you’ll want to dress, act, and experience life in your own special way. If you think you’re different in a positive way, people will flock to you. Don’t stifle your fun and vibrant personality to be like every other woman your age. Be a joyful unique woman who speaks her mind. Some women lose their identity after they get married and have families. They become someone’s wife or mother, and those wonderful independent women are somehow pushed into a corner. I quit my job when I had my first child, and followed the traditional role of mother and wife. I put my heart and sole into raising three kids, and enjoyed my life for several decades focusing on everyone’s dream but my own. In speaking with many women who’ve gone through a divorce, a common theme they learned was, “Never lose YOURSELF.” If you want to date a younger guy because you have a younger spirit, don’t worry about what people will think, just go for it.

A Cougar is Genuine and doesn’t try to be someone she’s not. You shouldn’t dress or act like the person your partner wants you to be. You need to be real! I’ve seen some women try to be the prim and proper girlfriend or wife only to feel like a fraud. If you follow your gut, you’ll know who you are and how to be yourself even if you’re different than the people around you. Don’t try to fit into a crowd that makes you feel inferior because you aren’t like them. It’s very liberating to be yourself. The alternative is to feel fake and pretentious. This ultimately causes negative hostile resentment over time, and that’s not very cougar-like.

Assertive is a key component to being a true cougar. If someone hurts you and you let him, you’re teaching him that being harmful is ok. I wasn’t always outspoken, in fact I was super shy. I let kids on the playground take my pail and shovel. I was scared to participate in class. Somehow, I realized that this didn’t get my needs met and I began to speak up. Assertive is not aggressive! You don’t want to hit someone with a stick instead of calmly articulating your thoughts as to why you won’t accept the poor behavior. As a cougar you’re a role model to your family and friends. If you feel strongly about something, speak your mind and don’t hold back. Being your own advocate is the best thing you can do for yourself. If you don’t help yourself, who will? Men are definitely attracted to this strength. It’s a turn-on. They prefer independent free thinkers rather than needy, insecure, non-challenging women.

The Urban Dictionary’s definition of Racy is: “A very sexy girl, only some can pull that name off.” Cougars love to express their sexuality. They’re comfortable talking about sex. They realize the importance of sex and intimacy in a relationship. If you want to be thought of as a vibrant, sexy woman for life, then embrace that part of you. Men are attracted to women who exude confidence in their bodies and desires. Being racy in the bedroom will definitely enhance your sex life. Wearing racy clothing when it’s appropriate is fun and keeps you from becoming old and matronly. Guys can usually spot a cougar a mile away. They can tell that she’s confident in her sexuality because of the way she walks, talks, and dresses.

Are you ready to become a confident, older, unique, genuine, assertive, and racy woman? Get your cougar pride going and release that inner feline. The next time you’re with your friends discussing who you identify with on “Sex and The City,” you know who to choose – Samantha!

A New Cougar Has Emerged

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A New COUGAR Has Emerged“A lot of people perceive women as sexy based on their outer appeal. But there’s no way to mistake if a woman is confident.” ~ Trey Songz.

There’s always a window of opportunity, it’s just whether you’re ready to open it.  I had been single for about a year and a half after my husband’s sudden death. The first six months were devastating and filled with grief.  Once the cloud of sadness began to lift, I embarked on my journey of finding my new self! I was still a mother, sister, daughter and friend, but I was no longer a wife. I found this to be scary yet liberating. I realized that dwelling on the past was a waste of time. Time took on a new meaning and importance.

Who was I? I had a need to discover my passions and improve the person who I had ignored for the past few decades by focusing on my family. I loved being a wife and full-time mother of three, but it was now MY time. I realized that going out to dinner with my married friends was comforting, but I needed more excitement. I discovered that trying to date the single men who I had known for years was not going to work. I was going to have to step out of my comfort zone and into the unknown singles world.

I took an inventory of my mental and physical assets and deficits. I found that exercise helped me in both areas.  Reading self-help books and seeing a therapist were both beneficial, but talking to other widows and divorcees was what I craved. They gave me tips from their years of dating as an older chick. I loved the attention I received when I went to singles bars. I felt like a teenager, with an added bonus, which was the experience I obtained from having been in a successful marriage. I loved myself and had been loved

I ventured out with single women and enjoyed the freedom that comes with being unattached. I felt comfortable talking to guys as they approached me in restaurants or bars. I wasn’t looking for my next husband. I was just out to have FUN and find a companion or two along the way.  My secret to my becoming this free spirited woman can be summed up in one word: C.O.U.G.A.R.

No, I wasn’t looking to de-flower young innocent men as the stigma implied. I was evolving into a confident, older, unique, genuine, assertive, and racy woman. I felt confident in the knowledge that I was a good, intelligent, fun person with many attributes. I was older and wise with experience in multiple areas such as; marriage, family, travel, work, and sex. I focused on my unique positive qualities and pushed aside my insecurities. I refused to miss an opportunity to meet a new man by waiting for him to approach me. I was assertive and initiated conversations in coffee shops, gyms, and grocery stores without hesitation. Men seemed to be attracted to me because of the energy that I exuded. Did I dress sexy and youthful? Hell Yes! Was I comfortable talking to men about any racy subject? Of course I was. I decided that the race, religion or age of the men I met was not going to be a factor in my quest for companionship. I didn’t look for a man who fit societal norms. I was completely reliant on my intuition. This was very empowering. Were younger and older men attracted to the woman I had become? What do you think? A new Cougar had emerged.

Check out my videos about older women dating on my YouTube Channel: The KarenLee Poter Show. Read further about my definition of COUGAR on my website.

Alas - I must leave La La Land

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IMG_9973Leaving LA If your two oldest kids move away, I guess there's worse places to visit than Los Angeles. As a single mom, I feel it's necessary to see my little rugrats as often as possible. Staying at the #Andaz Hotel in West Hollywood has been amazing. It has a rooftop pool with a view of the mountains and the city. Unfortunately I'm leaving today, but thought I'd share this little clip from the pool. #sadtoleave

Choose Your Face Over Your Ass

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Are you over 40 and still trying to be ultra thin? Here are 10 reasons why you should think twice. I've always agreed with my sorority sister’s favorite saying, "You can never be too skinny or too rich." I rationalized that being uber rich might have its problems, but I would deal with them while traveling throughout the world on my yacht. However, as I passed my 40th birthday marker, I began to question, "Can you be too skinny?" I looked in the mirror and concluded that her theory on never being too skinny had some serious drawbacks. Sure, when you're super skinny, you'll be able to fit into your bikini from 1975, and slide into your size two jeans with ease, but these advantages come at the expense of something far more valuable — YOUR FACE!

After a certain age, you will need to make THE CHOICE. What's more important…your face or your ass? After extensive personal research, I've determined that my face is by far the winner. Click here for a video demonstration, and read on to discover ten reasons why you should choose your face vs your bum.

1) You can see it in your face. Has this chain of events ever happened to you? You step on the bathroom scale, see a weight loss of a few pounds, leap in the air with excitement, go to the grocery store, bump into a friend and she exclaims, “Wow you lost weight, I see it in your face?" Your face is always the first place that looks thinner, not your thighs, waist or butt. Your mug looks longer, creases form on your cheeks, and the skin under your chin starts to sag. You appear older — not the look you were going for.

2) Big butts do not lie. We are now in the age of the Beyonce & Kardasian butts. These two women have revolutionized the whole "Does my butt look fat question." People are even getting butt implants! This is life altering for those of us who've always tried to minimize their derriere. Thank you, Beyonce for making it a plus to have a plus sized prime beef rump roast.

3) Say no to bony butts. Along with the aesthetic value of a bigger butt, it helps to have a little extra padding there if you happen to fall down. As we get older, a boney bum can turn into a broken tailbone if you happen to slip on some ice. A little cushioning provided by a few pounds can help soften the blow and save you a lot of physical therapy.

4) Fillers are painful. Botox and other fillers for your face are costly and painful. Having a little fullness in the face gives a smoother look with fewer wrinkles. You can avoid the frequent trips to the dermatologist by eating that extra piece of pizza and letting your face enjoy the benefits.

5) Say no to plastic surgery. To take it one step further, you'll be able to postpone a facelift or other surgical procedures that tighten your skin. You also won’t walk around looking as if you are perpetually surprised or resemble Kim Novak on the Academy Awards 2014.

6) Your face is the most important part of your body. Your face is what people look at 90% of the time. Who walks around backwards? As long as your job isn't a docent at the museum and you're not inclined to do the moonwalk, your face is what's seen the majority of the time. You'll want it to look as smooth and wrinkle free as possible.

7) Eating is a pleasurable experience. You will be able to enjoy a good meal with friends rather than splitting a side salad and drooling over everyone else's entree. What could be more frustrating than eating a few pieces of lettuce and a green bean while everyone is gobbling up their scrambled eggs and bacon? Your face will have a big smile on it when it’s well nourished.

8) It takes too much time and energy to be on a diet. You won't have to plan your meals in advance and be in a constant state of hunger. Your face will not have a constant frown with worry lines from the stress of not eating enough green leafy vegetables and indulging in too many carbs. You can sleep comfortably and won't have nightmares about eating a piece of cheesecake.

9) Choosing your face will definitely help your mood. You won't be irritable and stressed about gaining a pound or two. People won't be bored listening to what your latest fad diet is and how much weight you've lost. You'll be a happier person — and so will they!

10) Having a flat ass doesn’t help your sex life. Your partner might hurt his hand giving a little love tap to your boney bum. Some men say, "The bigger the cushion, the better the pushin." Yes, men seem to like a fuller bottom.

So, what's it going to be? Do you want to live your life, trying to look like a runway model with an eating disorder, or would you rather pinch a little more than an inch and enjoy your youthful plump face. The choice is yours! Don't forget what Sir Mix-a-Lot says, "I like big butts and I cannot lie."

10 Things Cougars Hate About St. Patrick's day

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AmQ0mS2jL3g Older women love to party but not on St. Patrick's Day. Not to be a killjoy, but I don't like St. Patrick's Day. I have nothing against Ireland or it's people, it's just that I'm 55 years old, and it's not my cup of tea. I love rainbows, elves, and especially pots of gold, but that's about it. Don't get me wrong, I like to party with the best of them, but not on St. Patrick's Day and here are 10 reasons why:

1.I don't like green beer! I don't like beer in general, and the green coloring makes it even more undesirable. I actually think green coloring makes the food or beverage look like it has some mold or algae growing on it. It reminds me of the "Slime" in "Ghostbusters." Basically green is not appetizing.

2.I don't like (nor am I capable of) dancing an Irish jig. I've seen "Riverdance" and "Lord of the Dance" and I appreciate the precision it takes to get those moves down. I love to dance, and this is not my style. Granted I can't twerk like Miley Cyrus, but I can move to the beat of most genres of music.

3.I don't like wearing green face paint. If I'm going out, it takes me at least 20 minutes to apply my makeup. Why would I want to cover my face in green goo unless it's an avocado/ cucumber facial mask to deep cleanse my pores? Additionally, walking around with a green face is not attractive unless you're starring in "Wicked."

4.Green Men. I don't like drunk, obnoxious guys who are dressed in green, wearing goofy top hats, shouting, "Hey MILF or Cougar." This doesn't turn me on, in fact it's a major turn-off.

5.I don't like Irish Pubs. They're usually loud and have a terrible wine selection. Yes they're way too rowdy for an older gal like me, but on St. Patrick's Day, they're also over-crowded and the likelihood of beer spilling on me is very high. Take me to a piano bar, it's much more my style.

6.I don't like looking like a leprechaun. I love dressing sexy and the idea of wearing a green hat and green suspenders doesn't fit the bill. Also, I love animal print and very few leopards are green.

7.It's not a sexy day. I don't like this day because it's basically not a sexy holiday. Not every holiday is New Year's Eve (there's a lot of kissing at New Year's) or Valentine's Day, but this one is more about getting drunk than romance.

8.I don't like corned beef and sauerkraut. It's not healthy and I don't eat red meat. The only green foods I eat are the leafy vegetables like Kale or some nice green broccoli. Thinking about the corned beef gives me indigestion.

9.I don't like bagpipe music. The bagpipes are basically annoying and sound like a group of horny howling alley cats. It's sensory overload. I do like certain Irish musicians like U2, but bagpipes make me want to scream.

10.I don't like guys in skirts. I like to see men look like men, enough said.

So, there are my 10 reasons for avoiding the St. Patty's day festivities. If you'd like to see a visual demonstration, watch this highly entertaining video.

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How Tragedy Begot My Transformation

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From Mixed Company to Murder: How Tragedy Begot My Transformation I had been happily married to my college sweetheart, Gary, for nearly twenty-four years. We had a daughter and two sons who were 19, 17 and 11 years old. I never dreamed that a joyous musical rendez-vous would precede a tragic event that would turn our wonderful world upside down… My daughter, Jessica, had just finished her sophomore year at Yale University and had arranged for her a cappella group, Mixed Company, to perform in the Midwest area. The group of 18 boys and girls would be staying at our house for the mid-May weekend and then drive up to Minnesota to finish the tour. On the Friday evening of their tour, we invited our friends and family to see them perform a show at one of our favorite restaurants, Café Lucci. Nearly everyone we knew crammed into that room. It was a magical night! I remember glancing at Gary, who was grinning with pride as my daughter sang a solo. The rest of the weekend was filled with site-seeing and culminated with a private performance in our kitchen—a four-part harmony “Happy Mother’s Day” song.

Gary joked on Monday night about how he was contemplating missing work the next day so he could drive to Minnesota with the group. Unfortunately, he did the responsible thing and went to work. Tuesday morning, May 16, 2006, I received a frantic phone call from someone in Gary’s office. Gary had been stabbed! I didn’t know how badly he had been hurt, but I yelled for my daughter to come with me to the hospital. The boys were at school.

Gary was the president of a construction company. The previous day, he had given an employee, Tom, a pay cut during a routine job performance review. Apparently, Tom wasn’t happy about losing part of his income, and so he strolled into the office kitchen the next morning, slid a cake knife up his sleeve, casually said good morning to his colleagues, slinked into Gary’s office, closed the door, plunged a knife into my husband’s heart, and repeatedly stabbed him. He didn't stop until some co-workers stormed the office and pulled him off.

Jessica and I arrived at the hospital, and after a terrifying seclusion in a waiting room, we learned from a chaplain that Gary had died. Time froze as I looked at my daughter’s face and the news sank in. My sister picked up my sons at school and told them about what had happened as she drove to the hospital. That night, I made the determination that I wasn’t going to be pitied and labeled as, “the woman whose husband was murdered." I vowed that my kids would be strong, and our family would remain a family.

There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t think about Gary. But I’m a much different person than I was back in 2006 when Mixed Company came to town. Gary's death was the launch pad for my transformation into a new life that I could hardly have imagined on the day that he was murdered. I have learned a great deal about my capabilities as a person and navigator in the years since. Life’s changes and the ways in which we handle them are what define us. I want to share these experiences with LoveEncore fans and hear the adventures of others who have likewise been transformed by their lives' events...

Wine Insecurity Syndrome - The Remedy

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JhNT5cMQxP4 Have you wondered what a wine tasting is all about? Do you question what goes on during those events where people huddle around a sommelier and question him on terms like aeration? Heard comments like "This wine is fruit forward?" Have you smelled it, tasted it, and had no clue what to say other than,"This smells like a pair of damp running socks?"If you've been diagnosed with "Wine Insecurity Syndrome," your treatment awaits. Watch this entertaining and enlightening five minute video, "Naughty Women And Wine By KarenLee Poter."Your wine insecurities will diminish to a point where you'll never fear a wine list again. Don't forget to SUBSCRIBE to KarenLeePoter on YouTube.

Sampling KarenLee's Vlogs

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4gKB2P2j9s0 This playlist has a little bit of everything I do. It has amazing interviews on racy subjects, funny rants, & hilarious realistic depictions of life as a Cougar.

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A Glimpse Of My Life As A Confident, Older, Unique, Girl, Assertive & Real

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6LY56nB4hh0 These are the funniest and most creative videos about all aspects of my life. My view of "Cougars" is not a predator of younger men. It's someone who lives every moment as a Confident, Older, Unique, Girl, who's Assertive and Real. No Gold Digger looking for a man to take care of her here. Enjoy and share these vlogs about concerts, working out, getting dresssed, drinking, and life lessons. Yes I'm a woman who dates a younger man, but that's only a tiny part of who I am. Please let me know what you think and share with your friends.

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