My husband and best friend of 24 years was murdered. What happens when you go through a death or divorce? Do you crawl under the covers and let the trauma control your life, or do you emerge powerful and more confident than you ever thought possible? I chose the latter route. In this book, I share my most personal stories, thoughts and experiences from childhood to widow to Cougar. My hope is that this book will be a life-changing guide for all women who want to live their life with passion and purpose.

The book is very funny, relatable and inspiring. It's easy to promote and has been called “life changing.” I describe my experiences moving from a traditional marriage to tragically becoming a widow and creating a brand new life with a much younger man. It’s filled with real-life tips and stories about dating, relationships and sex. It aids in building self-confidence while following one’s intuition and ignoring the negative influences in life. 

Here’s a sampling of reviews:


Author Felicia Brings (Older Women, Younger Men) wrote, “This is an extremely important book for today’s generation of women who are single, divorced or widowed, looking at the dating scene and asking themselves, ‘What am I supposed to do now?’”

Dr. LeslieBeth Wish states, “KarenLee truly helps women rethink their love behavior. She reframes the ‘cougar’ into the concept of a confident and savvy woman who knows who she is, when to say no, and how to choose partners wisely.”

Steve G. wrote, “KarenLee Poter delivers a phenomenal guide to restoring self-confidence and tenacity. If I could sum it up in one word, I would use restorative. I not only recommend this for women, but for men as well.”