Skip The Last Dig, Text The Love
For my first post I'd like to talk about relationships. They're f*&#king hard! Right when you think things are going smoothly with the person you love, inevitably something crazy happens (maybe Mercury goes into retrograde) and you prepare for battle. It's almost like drama is an important part of keeping the relationship on its toes. You think it's all about you being right and the other person being wrong. You try to prove your point and think the other person isn't listening. As the fight escalates, you say things which are meant to hurt the other person. It's full steam ahead until one of you leaves the room, calls the other person a name, cries, or screams obscenities. The worst part is that the topic isn't all that important when you look back on it over time. Why do I know all of this? Because I've been in two long term committed relationships, and have had many heated arguments that went down that path. It could just be my personality or the men I chose, but my guess is that many of you reading this can relate.
Today I tried something new. My partner and I had a fight over some misunderstanding. It could have escalated into a doozy ruining both of our days, but I came up with an idea that worked like a charm. Instead of picking up my phone and texting him a nasty finishing statement to drive my point home which admittedly I've done in the past, I typed five things that I loved about him into a message. Before pressing send, I read them back to myself. An interesting sensation came rippling through my body: I calmed down and actually shed a tear. Before I could change my mind, I pressed the little blue send button. I'm sure you can guess what happened... I got a loving text back with five things that he loved about me. This little texting exchange diffused our whole spat. In addition, it made us both recall why we are in the relationship. Will this texting tip work in the future? As long as the phones are charged there's always hope.