The 10 Worst Ways To Break Up With Someone
As the New Year rolls around and we make dramatic changes in our lives, many re-evaluate their relationships and decide to end them. It’s never easy and as Neil Sedaka wrote, “Breaking up is hard to do,” however…there are really bad ways in which to let go. The best way to break up is obviously to be honest and compassionate. Here are some of the not so great ways:
1) Texting. This is a chicken’s way out. A discussion is warranted even if it’s a brief phone conversation. See number two.
2) The Phone. Better than texting but not as good as an in-person convo, a phone conversation isn’t all that personal, especially if you’ve been together for any length of time. Do you owe it to the other person to look him/her in the eye?
3) Ghosting! Worse than texting and phoning, the ultimate “fuck you” is “ghosting.” The Urban Dictionary defines it as “the act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating but no longer wishes to date.” This leaves the ghosted person flapping in the wind and if you ever see him/her again, you better run.
4) Moving. Having your partner come home to an empty house not knowing where you went is just wrong. Let’s just say moving is to be used in abusive or domestic violence situations only.
5) Cheating. Being caught in the act or hearing about it from others fosters a lot of negative Karma. As we all know, Karma’s a bitch, so don’t do something stupid. If you want to be with other people, talk about it. If it means the demise of your relationship, so be it. Sounds easy? It isn’t, but it’s the right thing to do.
6) Sex with his/her best friend. This will definitely get your message across, but do you really want to get into that hot mess of a triangle? If you want to shatter friendships, trust and self-confidence, this will be the ultimate hat-trick way of breaking up.
7) Saying, “It’s not you, it’s me.” Come on, no one believes that crap. Tell the truth, pull off the Band-Aid off and move on.
8) Lying. My mother always told me, “Go with the truth,” and it has served me well. If you don’t have the same feelings any longer and want to break it off, don’t make up some BS just to get out of telling the truth. Sometimes the truth hurts, but in the long run, it’s the best way to do it.
9) Instigating a fight. This would come under the heading, “passive aggressive behavior,” which is not a mature way of handling the situation. Take the freaking high road and don’t start a fight so it looks like it wasn’t your idea to end things.
10) Telling other people first. Don’t tell your friends or even worse, change your Facebook status to “single” prior to telling the soon to be Ex. If you want to end it, give the person first hand knowledge. No one wants to be dumped and look like a fool.
As Marilyn Monroe stated, “Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” Breakups are part of life, but doing them in the right way will never fail you. Want to hear more discussion on sex and relationships? Check out my YouTube channel: KarenLee Poter and Podcast: Sex Talk With My Mom.